Robin Edgar has hurled a variety of accusations and epithets at his numerous targets. His most recent, borrowed from another UU blogger, is passive-aggressive.
As usual, he makes no bones about diagnosing Unitarian Universalists he disapproves of, but easily launches into a tirade when anybody even dares to ask if he might have psychological problems. Not to mention the fallacious reasoning behind his use of the label.
Passive-aggressive people refuse to do what they are asked to do. UU leaders are refusing to do what Robin Edgar asks of them. Therefore, in Robin Edgar’s eyes, UU leaders are passive-agressive.
Setting aside the fact that there are other, perfectly legitimate reasons why different people refuse to do things, he’s missing the point that passive-aggressive individuals specifically resist authority. So Robin Edgar has it backwards … or is incredibly arrogant in assuming that he should have authority over Peter Morales, Gini Courtier, William Sinkford, John Buhrens and anybody else whom he accuses of ‘mistreating’ him.
Even more interesting is when we look at other specific symptoms of passive-aggressive personalities, and see how many actually match of the behaviour of Robin Edgar himself.
The passive-aggressive create chaotic situations, and make excuses for their behaviour. They constantly complain about being misunderstood and unappreciated, and exaggerate their sense of personal misfortune. They have few intimates, often pushing them away with continual anger and mistrust. Most important of all, the passive-aggressive always blame others, and never take responsibility for their own actions.
Still, just as UU leaders are not passive-aggressive because Robin Edgar projects one major trait on them, Robin Edgar is not necessarily passive-aggressive just because he seems to share some passive-aggressive traits. But his negativity, hostility, rage and narcissistic need for attention are definitely cause for concern. He is right when he says that others do not understand when he behaves the way he does … not only because of how counter-productive his behaviour is, but because he has utterly failed to learn how unproductive that behaviour is after so many, many years of repetitive lashing out.
Mister Edgar, whatever reasons you give for rationalizing your behaviour, it has not worked, and it will not work. You need to learn how to do things differently. You need to learn to let go of your rage, and to put yourself in the position of those many individuals whom you have been attacking and hurting over the years. But your recalcitrance has convinced us that you cannot learn this yourself. You need help. Please get that help, before it’s too late.